Games at day-care taking toll on toddler


DEAR ABBY: I have a 3-year-old daughter who has been going to a home day-care provider since she was an infant. The sitter is wonderful and I like the way she cares for my daughter. She doesnt speak English very well, but we have been able to communicate through her 12-year-old daughter, Laurie.

The issue that Im having is with her daughter. Laurie plays with the children a lot when she gets out of school in the afternoons. Lately, my daughter has been telling me that they play school and that Laurie is the teacher. My daughter comes home devastated every day because Laurie tells her that she is getting failing grades and pretends to send her to the principals office.

According to my daughter, none of the other kids have to do this. She also says that she has to eat her lunch alone for talking. I dont think the sitter realizes that this is going on. I have tried to talk to Laurie about it, but she denies doing it.

Im afraid this will have a lasting effect on my child when she starts school. I dont want to change sitters, but I dont want to subject my daughter to this kind of behavior either. I need some help here. What should I do?


DEAR MELODY: The first thing you should do is find someone who speaks your day-care providers language to help you to explain to the woman what her daughter has been doing. Your concerns are well-founded. Its possible that Laurie is mirroring what is going on with HER at school, and her mother should be made aware of it.

Second, please remove your daughter from this home day-care situation and find a licensed and accredited day-care center for her. There are things she should be learning to prepare her for school that she isnt being taught. A proper preschool education can give your child an important head start. As a responsible parent, its up to you to see that she gets it.

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