DEAR ABBY: I weigh 327 pounds. Im 5 feet 11 inches tall, and I carry it better than most. Im trying to diet to improve my health, but I crave sweets.
I am employed as a receptionist. My desk is behind an L-shaped counter, which is eye level above my computer screen. My boss insists on putting a candy dish right above my computer monitor, directly in front of me. I have tried moving it to the ends of the counter, out of my range of vision, and I have tried placing it on the end tables in the reception area, but he moves it back again.
Abby, my boss is a small person. If he was a girl, hed be called petite. He doesnt battle weight like I do, nor does he seem to crave sweets the way I do. I sometimes work 10 or 12 hours a day, and its torture. I have talked to him about it, and he just laughed. I need my job and cant afford to lose it. Do you have a clever way I can get the point across?
DEAR TEMPTED: The real problem, however, isnt your boss; it is your compulsive eating. An organization that has been mentioned in my column before Overeaters Anonymous could give you support and help for the problem. Over the years it has helped thousands of men and women overcome the compulsion to binge. There are more than 8,000 OA chapters in 58 countries, and the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively. There are chapters in almost every city, but if you have difficulty locating one, log on to www.overeatersanonymous.org, or send a long SASE to OA World Service Office, P.O. Box 44020, Rio Rancho, NM 87174- 4020. They will help you regain control.
It appears your little boss has a sadistic sense of humor. On lunch breaks and your other break time, get out of the office and walk. Also, use NOT touching the candy as a way of showing the man whos boss.
DEAR ABBY: Im writing concerning my daughter, who is 10. She signed up to play basketball, but now she cries when she has to go to practice or to games, and says she wants to stop playing.
Her mother and I are divorced. Her mom says its OK for her to quit, but I was raised believing that when you start something you should finish it. Now it looks like I am the bad guy. Should I let her go ahead and quit, or maker her finish?
THE BAD GUY
DEAR BAD GUY: Before making your final decision, talk with your daughter and find out whats going on at those basketball games and practices thats driving her to tears. She may have a good reason for wanting to quit. However, if she does quit, she should replace basketball with another sport or pastime that will keep her active such as dance, self-defense, gymnastics, etc.