DEAR ABBY: Im writing in response to your reply to the gal in her 20s who looks like shes 14 or 15. Will makeup help her with her problem? Maybe. But it wont make her look older. There are some women who will always look young. Im 41 and look like Im in my early 30s, and could pass for my 20s if I dressed the part.
Tell her to relax and enjoy her youthful look. It may seem like a problem right now, but when shes in her 40s and her counterparts are starting to show their age, she will still have young guys flirting with her because they think shes in their age bracket. She wont have to wear makeup to cover the wrinkles, and people will tell her she never ages. What a compliment!
DEAR WENDY: Im sure the young woman will be grateful for your pep talk. You might be interested in reading what other youthful-appearing readers offered on the subject:
DEAR ABBY: Im in my mid-30s and still get carded for X-rated movies, so I can relate to the problem. My advice:
Dont waste your money on hairstylists or makeup. The hair wont change her looks, and makeup is designed to emphasize them. Trust me; I tried for a dozen years. (I avoid pigtails, though.) At work, avoid greetings like Hi and Hello and introduce yourself with your title and last name. (Example: Good afternoon, Im Ms. Doe. How may I help you?)
At social events, introduce yourself by your first and last names. (Example: Im Jane Doe. Pleased to meet you.) Mind your mannerisms. Stand up straight, look people in the eye, give a firm handshake and enunciate when you speak. If its not someone youll be dealing with regularly, or professionally, ignore the persons comments. Its not worth your time. And if all else fails, look the person straight in the eye, flash a brilliant smile and say, You do realize I am ( ) years old?
DEAR ABBY: You advised that young woman to consult a hairdresser, a makeup artist, and to choose more conservative, no-nonsense business attire in the workplace. An image consultant from the Association of Image Consultants International would be the ideal person to facilitate this womans quest for success in the business world. Such a consultant can coordinate, guide and recommend the right hairdresser, makeup artist, and the best choice in wardrobe that will enhance the wearer.
The Association of Image Consultants International offers consultants who are trained, experienced and competent in the techniques of personal style. She can find one of these talented professionals by visiting www.aici.org.
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